What do you do when:
- You don't want to do the things you're good at anymore, because they've got boring. Computers, sex, political dabbling.
- Most of things you want to do you suck at. Songwriting, storywriting, philosophy, science.
- The other things you want to do are completely pointless. Annoying the whackjobs on youtube.
- The things everyone else thinks you should do, you have no interest in doing. Relationship, mortgage, career.
- The things you should do, you really don't want to do. Exercise, housework, moving out.
...?
Is that the definition of a mid-life crisis? Or just life?
It's too early for you to have a mid-life crisis.
ReplyDeleteI don't know. "Just keep swimming," is about the best advice I can come up with.
...okay *I* didn't come up with it. I'm just passing it along to you.
ReplyDeleteNot a mid-life crisis per se. but fallacious 'black dog' twaddle!
ReplyDeleteComputers earn you dosh - and are rather fun, annoying though your clients may be. Ditto sex (no clients there, though ;) ) and Politics you love.
Part 2 - Balls. You don't suck at them, though I'm not qualified on the last two points.
3 - Fun is everything!
4- I concur. So don't. And 5 ... exercise is important. Join the Quentin Crisp school of housework, and move when you can and want too.
David's advice 'Just keep swimming' is good, though arm bands are a great help!
I'd say start a journal--or just get out a piece of paper and write to no one in particular...just write down whatever comes to mind, whatever you feel, no matter how silly or trivial it may seem. Don't stop until you've run out of things to write or your thoughts stop.
ReplyDeleteIt helps sort out what's going on in your mind. You might be surprised at what you find when you let yourself go and put to words thoughts you didn't know you had.
Exercise helps me de-stress and think things over--don't do anything too strenuous; stretch out and start slowly. In fact, some stretches are really yoga poses, and when you put your body into different, unfamiliar positions, it can help you unwind and experience a new awareness.
It's okay to take a break and try new things. Life is too short--live it by doing the things you want to do, doing the things that make you happy.
You're not having a mid-life crisis unless you've wasted money on an ill fated attempt to recapture your youth and dress ridiculous in a embarrassing attempt to seem more cool and young and hip with the teenie boppers and Twilight fanbase!
It's called creeping nihilism - or depression. go see a doctor!
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